Father’s Day letters

On Father’s Day I decided to send a couple of letters to each of my daughters. They will be dated on the twins 15th birthday, 2008.

They are to be opened in 2018, and 2028. I don’t know yet how to hold and send, but there is time to figure that out.

I want the girls to remember, then, the details of today that will otherwise fade. Through their father’s eyes, his joy and worry winding like rivulets down through time, contained within the banks of their lives.

A recall of their wonder and laughter at the smooth-skinned tiny rubber boa snake that was wrapped around a stick, thinking it was hidden because it had stuck its head in a crack. My hope that there was a life lesson there. When I showed them that he thought he was safe in a cave, with most of him outside, they laughed out loud.

When the girls open those letters decades from now, I want to give them a fresher memory about who they were. Hopefully this will give them a better understanding of who they have become.

Will they remember the effort to carry a mattress from one room to the other when their best friend came for a sleep-over? That effort may be important in a future when they think they are too tired to get off the couch.

If we are all at any moment the summation of who we have been, today is a too thin slice of time. We stack these slices, our fears and our joys, days and nights banding like alternating colors, and after a while the pile becomes so high that we can’t go back and see with clarity this day, a day that was unremarkable except for the fact that it was the present then, with fewer bumps and scars and tools and certificates pasted to the outside.

At some point in their future I want the past to come alive. I want to count the number of holes we put in the wall playing darts when we missed the whole board. I want them to remember that some dart holes in the wall were absolutely fine at one point in their lives, that fear of consequence was not the only principal of living.

I imagine them opening the envelopes like they were letters from a friend. But instead of some far away place, the letters were posted from a far away hour, not distant in miles or memory but enveloping them now, whenever that is, tying us together in the timelessness of love.

Seduction of life without consequences

A while back we noted that the current financial and economic upheaval might have long term impact on how we live. Eye wrote about it in August of 2007, and referred to it again in March of this year, and again in May.

David Brooks has just done a far better job than Eye in an outstanding piece on why and how the current downturn affects us socially. (Read it here.) Brooks calls the current situation "The Great Seduction" and notes how our country's prosperity was built on "hard work, temperance and frugality."

Because he is an honest writer, Brooks offers a few solutions, then concludes:

"There are dozens of things that could be done. But the most important is to shift values. Franklin made it prestigious to embrace certain bourgeois virtues. Now it’s socially acceptable to undermine those virtues. It’s considered normal to play the debt game and imagine that decisions made today will have no consequences for the future."

Brooks misses one very important point. It may be necessary to allow greater hardship i.e., consequences, as a result of profligacy. This is the only way to modify behavior. The extent to which society, or government, mitigates consequences is the extent to which the problem will persist.

This is not just human nature, it is biology at its most basic. Why would we not do what we evolved to do, if there is no reason not to do it? That is why Franklin's message was so well regarded. He was offering a suggestion on how to improve life when the consequences of not doing so were dire.

The unpleasant side of this today is that there will be suffering that we are not used to seeing in America for the last couple of generations. And we will want to prevent the worst of this. But to be effective, we need to realize that every effort to reduce hardship above a "hit bottom" level will prolong it, or postpone it and make it worse when eventually the bills have to be paid.

Clintons lie and show disrespect

Bill and Hillary Clinton’s desperation has become repulsive. Their dishonesty shameful. They are now the source of bright light on why the nation needs Obama.

No Bill jokes, here. We all know his history. But the Clintons have now increased the shrillness of their spin, their slant, their denials and their lies. They do it as they breathe. It is time to push back.

As the Clinton machine squabbles and threatens over the votes of Michigan and Florida, more of us need to talk about the fact that last year Clinton, along with other candidates, agreed that disputed delegates should not have full representation if they violated party rules. Obama even took his name off the Michigan ballot. Clinton did not. Maybe because she didn’t mean it.

Now that they are losing, the Clintons want to “move the goal posts,” change the rules in the middle of the game, pretend that it is about the integrity of the process instead of about winning. The lousiest of Kindergarten behavior.

But this is quite typical of Bill and Hillary. Again we are confronted with the incredible arrogance that drove the right wing nearly insane in the late 1990s: It is not just the lies, but the clear belief that lies don’t matter, that the truth does not matter.

They will fan class warfare to get to the White House, by portraying Obama as the elite. By saying critics of Hillary are the elite, saying economists who dismiss her stupid plan to eliminate gas taxes as “elite opinion,” when it becomes clear her policies would make the nation worse off (read it here).

What unmitigated horse crap. What amazing cynicism. The bold, calculating manipulating arrogance of it is simply breathtaking. They are willing to damage the country to get to the White House.

Bill Clinton says those urging his wife to get out of the race don’t worry about jobs or health insurance. (Read it here). Hillary claims she ducked under sniper fire, then says she misspoke when video showed otherwise. Bill pretends to champion the poor while lying to the poor, misleading while pretending to be a friend, having made $100 million since leaving the White House.

At this point it is obvious they would offer help to a blind man to get proper change, then slip a $1 bill in place of the $5. Anything goes if it is for a good cause, and they get to decide what that might be.

They use the uneducated because the educated favor Obama. Does education matter? Yes, it does. It does not make one right, but it matters. The Clintons say the opposite, that education somehow makes one’s opinion less meaningful. This is an odd stance for a Rhodes Scholar married to a Yale Law graduate. But the Clintons will say anything, use anybody.

Clinton is of the old order: Lie when you have to, change the rules when you can, do whatever it takes, dirty politics. Nobody really wants that. A woman in the White House? Sure. That woman? No.

We don’t want people who will do anything to get power to have power. It really is that simple.

It is time for change. Obama in ‘08.